The unthinkable has happened.
Have you discovered that your partner has been unfaithful, and broken trust in your relationship?
Or are you the one who has broken the trust?
Either way, you are experiencing a whirlwind of intense emotions and uncertainty about the future of your relationship.
You might ask yourself,
"Can we weather this storm?"
"Will we make it to the other side?"
"Do I even want to try?
“Trauma is any terrifying event that instantly changes the world as we know it, leaving us helpless and emotionally overwhelmed.”
-Sue Johnson
Experiencing betrayal can be a traumatic experience that can shatter your world.
You feel like the rug beneath your feet has been ripped out from under you. You're in shock, feel blindsided, and it can feel like you were played as a fool.
"I trusted you, and you broke my heart, leaving it completely devastated."
You gravel with questions like…
How could my best friend, my person, betray me to this magnitude?
How could I not have seen the warning signs?
Do I know everything about the betrayal?
Will I ever be able to trust you again?
Will I ever feel like myself again?
And if you are the betraying partner, your world has been shattered as well.
The thing you have been dreading has happened. Your two worlds have collided, and your partner knows what you have been hiding. You may feel shocked, anxious, frustrated, and panicked, but a part of you might also feel relieved.
You may be asking yourself...
Will my partner ever forgive me?
Have I lost them forever?
What should I do now?
At this point, you might both wonder if it is possible to repair and rebuild the relationship.
But the truth is, there is a path to healing from betrayal. The way you feel right now is not permanent. Many couples have successfully found their way back to each other.
It can be tricky to walk through the healing on your own.
But with the help of a therapist, you will not be alone in navigating this rugged terrain.
Couples Therapy can help.
Therapy can help heal and strengthen your relationship.
In a safe and supportive environment, both partners can share their pain without fear of judgment, aiding healing.
Together, we will identify negative relational patterns and focus on developing positive ones that foster a stronger, more secure bond.
In session, learn and practice having conversations that promote trust and emotional safety in your relationship.
The Results Can be So Healing
You may:
Rekindle you love and connection - and even make it better than before!
Begin sharing your needs in a way that promotes a secure bond and safety in your relationship.
You may begin to ‘date’ each other again.
You can begin to listen deeply and hear each other's longings and needs beyond the mere words being expressed by your partner.